“My Husband says I have a lack of focus. I’m constantly juggling a million things at once vs. getting one thing done and then going on to the next thing. So to him, the way that I do things is very scattered and not as efficient as I could be.”
Did you know that most of your so-called “weaknesses” are actually strengths in disguise?
I helped my client, Leslie, see how that is possible.
“Leslie, What’s a positive way of stating that?”
“I’ve never really thought of it as a positive thing.
I think that I get ideas in the midst of what seems to be a little bit of chaos, where something will become clear. I can bring clarity in the chaos. I can read between the lines. I don’t necessarily look at stuff at face value. I’m always thinking, ‘oh, well if this is happening, I wonder if it’s because of this, this, and this’.
So I never look at what is happening on the surface. I’m always looking at, ‘What are the other possibilities… what else could be there?’
And that’s one thing my husband does comment on. He’s like ‘Yeah, I never thought about that.’
I just look at things differently.”
What Leslie just described is actually a strength that most women possess. This is actually one of the major differences in the male vs. female brain. It’s actually a sex related difference. Because of testosterone, men’s brains are different from ours. They are very logical – one thing at a time, and very methodical about it. And they can only concentrate on one thing at a time. It’s virtually impossible for most of them to multitask.
As women, our brains are geared towards multitasking. In our brains, it’s actually extremely hard for us to prioritize things. And, not only are we thinking about a whole bunch of different things, but we are also thinking about the connections to things. We are always connecting the dots.
This is a strength Leslie has because she’s a woman and it’s a great strengths to have. It’s a strength that is very much needed in corporate.
This is why it is so important to know your strengths. When you know and understand what your strengths mean and how they can benefit others, then you can bring it up in conversation with your colleagues to help show your value.
As I helped Leslie explore this strength she realized a few things: “I like to be able to see the big picture and even if I start to get down into the weeds just to understand everything that’s happening, I can see those connections really clearly. Once I can see how things connect, I can figure out how to close the gap or solve a problem that other people don’t see. “
This is a great thing to communicate with colleagues, and the next time her husband picks on her about being “scatter-brained”, she can talk about how thinking that way actually helps her to get ahead at work.
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